it's interesting, this role that i have chosen to 'label' myself under... ThanaDoula
it's in the category of Doula, that really we all can be. A servant, a helping person... there to support someone in need of service.
right now it is a friend, last time it was more of a 'client' i was serving.. AS a thanadoula.
it doesn't really matter, my role is still the same, but how i APPROACH them, and speak with them is different.
i am starting to notice a theme here though, my role as ThanaDoula is actually more of a support to the living folks, helping them do their best as their loved one is dying...so that their loved one's death can be the most sacred and peaceful and present death, that they were able to orchestrate whatever they really want, but just need a bit of humyn reassurance...
because it's hard watching someone you love (and/or maybe have a mixture of emotions and attachments to).... it's still hard.
and it's a lot to take in...
'it's your first time doing all this..'
and it's true.
i just want my very good friend to release all the emotions that are not serving her and her dying mom's process right now... they are just in the way... some emotions are not serving, and it takes another person sometimes, just a BIT outside of the situation... to hear and validate and normalize... and open up space....within their heart and soul...
to be better present with their loved one... as they die.
this womyn has been PURE support in my life... and lots of love...
i wish her and her mom and dad and family... all that they need right now...
to be able to just be, and breathe together right now...with non-attachment...
it's all they need for each other...
it's in the category of Doula, that really we all can be. A servant, a helping person... there to support someone in need of service.
right now it is a friend, last time it was more of a 'client' i was serving.. AS a thanadoula.
it doesn't really matter, my role is still the same, but how i APPROACH them, and speak with them is different.
i am starting to notice a theme here though, my role as ThanaDoula is actually more of a support to the living folks, helping them do their best as their loved one is dying...so that their loved one's death can be the most sacred and peaceful and present death, that they were able to orchestrate whatever they really want, but just need a bit of humyn reassurance...
because it's hard watching someone you love (and/or maybe have a mixture of emotions and attachments to).... it's still hard.
and it's a lot to take in...
'it's your first time doing all this..'
and it's true.
i just want my very good friend to release all the emotions that are not serving her and her dying mom's process right now... they are just in the way... some emotions are not serving, and it takes another person sometimes, just a BIT outside of the situation... to hear and validate and normalize... and open up space....within their heart and soul...
to be better present with their loved one... as they die.
this womyn has been PURE support in my life... and lots of love...
i wish her and her mom and dad and family... all that they need right now...
to be able to just be, and breathe together right now...with non-attachment...
it's all they need for each other...
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